I told myself that my goal for this year is to live life. A
dear friend told me that it’s vague. Well, I agree with him that it’s unclear –
everyday, I wake up and live another day of my life. In my defense, my goal is
to live my life for myself. Doing something that would make me happy, contented
and satisfied. And I did exactly that – for the past months, I started living
my life as if I was just born yesterday. I was occupied and happy and have
never regretted a thing or two. However, along the way, I forgot (and I am
thanking my close friends for reminding me about this) to continue loving myself. And loving my
self is kind of a hard task.How can you say that you love yourself? When I was asked about it, I can’t even answer straight away because I don’t
even know how to prove it or even believe in it.
So instead of living life as a goal for this year, I will
shift to the first thing that I need to do: Being happy within myself.
Someday, I will find my inner bliss and peace. It will be
baby steps in a long journey, but hey, they’re still progress.
I would like to share with you this article. Can you really
say that you are happy with yourself?
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Happiness is something we must do on purpose. In the midst
of struggles or difficulties, we must choose to be happy. Happiness does not
come from the acquisition of money or things; happiness begins from within each
of us. Being happy within ourselves simply means showing mercy to ourselves,
forgiving ourselves, befriending ourselves, accepting ourselves, and loving
ourselves. It’s a lifelong journey that requires regular self-examination and
an ongoing process of making peace with ourselves. It means discovering what
makes us unhappy and choosing to live in peace. It means treating ourselves
with compassion and kindness. It makes us to begin to enjoy life more and more
and celebrate it as adventure in peace. It helps us to live life to the
fullest, and help make the world a better place for us and others.
However, being happy within ourselves may be one of the most
difficult challenges we will ever face. For some, this challenge may prove too
difficult to handle, and as a result, they allow it to rule them. Many prefer
to endure the challenges, while others love to overcome them but do not how to
get out of them.
If you belong to any of these categories, the following tips
could help you experience happiness within yourself.
1. Forgive yourself
Forgive yourself for thinking negatively. Forgive yourself
for talking, without thinking twice. Forgive yourself for being rude to your
superior, your friend, your parents, or your siblings. Don’t think negative
thoughts about yourself for taking wrong steps or making wrong decisions. This
kind of thinking puts your focus on the problem and not the solution. It’s
better to say good things about yourself than to say negative things. Always
saying positive things about yourself is a sign that you have forgiven
yourself.
2. Forgive others
If we want to make peace with others, we first need to be at
peace with ourselves. Learn to forgive and forget and let go of things quickly.
It is not good to resent and hold grudges. People who hold grudges and resent
their past incidents often suffer from cardiac and psychological problems. The
easiest way to forgive others is to assume that they didn’t offend us in the
first place. If you weren’t offended, you wouldn’t have the course to be
offended or to forgive others.
3. Stop thinking and talking about your problems
Instead, focus on the good in every situation you face and
every person you are in a relationship with – including yourself.
4. Focus on being a blessing to others
Get your mind off yourself and focus on blessing others
instead. When you bless others, the blessings will come back to you; it’s a
wonderful phenomenon many don’t understand. After all, life is not all about
receiving; it’s more of giving.
5. Be busy
The busier you are, the less time you have to think,
especially, about something or someone who left you with negative feelings.
Being busy is the best way to keep negative thoughts from provoking you
repeatedly.
6. Recount the things you have achieved
Take some personal time to be with myself and recount the
things you have achieved and the things you have. Counting one’s blessings and
achievements makes one feel fulfilled and happy. We often hate ourselves when
we feel we have not achieved anything. The best way to count your blessings is
to write down whatever you have achieved. No matter what happens in our lives,
we have life, air to breathe, food to eat, some friends, family and associates,
a measure of wealth and a measure of health.
7. Develop a pastime
Spend your free time on reading, listening to music,
watching movies or other activities. This enables you to put your mind off the
problems you are facing and the thoughts you have about yourself.
8. Be content with WHO you are
Don’t focus on things about yourself that you have no
control over. Don’t strive to be like someone else. Don’t care about what other
people think or say about you, when you’re not even sure whether they are right
or wrong. When you do this, you relieve yourself of a lot of stress and
anxiety. Be content with yourself, while you hope for a better you.
9. Never lose hope
There’s always a light at the end of the tunnel. Hope is
something you can never afford to lose. With hope you always have a path
towards happiness. Hope reminds you that everything will be ok. With hope, you
know that whatever looks terrible is only temporary and that soon enough,
things will be just fine.
Randy Stiver once noted that ‘happiness must be pursued by
personally choosing the right thoughts, right words and right actions at the
right time.’ In short, our happiness depends on us.
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